Thursday, March 12, 2015

Oh shit, it's a bucket list

I went to Belgium last week. Also I turned 40.

We've been talking about going back to Belgium for years. The trip before that was Taiwan in 2012, and we'd been talking about that since 2002.

I realized at some point a few weeks ago that with my life at least half over (c'mon, I may be alive after 80, but I will NOT be traveling...) I'd better narrow down my travel to-do list from "everywhere" because that's not going to happen because I'm not Anthony Bourdain. I'd better prioritize. So here's the new top of the list:
  • Japan (which we've been wanting to do since 2006)
  • Germany (we've been saying we'd go back someday since we moved away in 2003)
  • Vietnam (made the list when our friend Craig went...10 or so years ago?)
  • Vienna before 2020 while we have crash space there/somewhere in Eastern Europe like maybe the Czech Republic which we wanted to go to in 2003 but ran out of money and had to come back to the states?
  • Senegal or Ghana or more realistically South Africa, yes, this will be the hard one, but I need me some live African music at the source before I die
I know there should be something South/Central America on there but no one place has yet to capture my fancy in a huge, serious way.

I don't know if we'll ever get to all those places of if we'll get to all of them in the next six years. I don't know how finances and logistics are going to go. When we left Europe in 2003 we had no idea we wouldn't be taking a real overseas vacation again until 2010. There's also a lot of great stuff to do in this country, but there's only so much cultural mind expansion you can do within your own borders, even if your country is really big. 

My advice to new parents and broke people who want to travel but can't right now is keep the dream alive. Those places will be there in 10 years. Unless you want to go to Venice. Then you might be screwed.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

That's my chief

Everyone's been posting this on my Facebook timeline, so I figured it deserved a more permanent home. We are lucky to have a great police force in Richmond. (And now there's a counterpoint to the surly December posts at this blog!)


Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Hey buddy, got any shoes you're not using?

What's been bouncing around in my head as the year comes to a close:
Yeah, I've got a lot of problems compared to your average wealthy white asshole in the Bay Area. But when I look back on this year, I feel like I don't get to be that mad about it even though I can tell myself a hell of a sob story about 2014. Sure, I had some setbacks, made some mistakes, and had some total not-my-fault, victim-of-circumstance bullshit go down. The part where a friend of mine died then 12 weeks later I had to pay some dude to mercifully kill my cat was also suboptimal to say the least. But I stayed married, we made all our house payments on time, our health problems were minimal, and we both had jobs. Maybe I'm just getting easier to please as I get older, but that's a pretty good baseline. Maybe suffering really is optional. Wouldn't that be nice?

Sing it loud, I'm "all" and I'm proud?

1) Back in LA when I was a distance runner my friend Aaron at work told me he misses running outside but he had to join a gym. Why? Because the LAPD kept pulling him over asking him what he was running from.

2) Back in high school, I was involved in a feminist student group called the Women's Issues Club. Some boys showed up to a meeting once and said our name was sexist and we should change it to the Human Issues Club.

If you pictured Aaron as a young white man or you think "Human Issues Club" is a good name for a group of females talking about gender inequality, then by all means keep arguing that "all lives matter" is a great rallying cry for talking about racism and police brutality. At least you're consistent.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Old woman yells at cloud, or, it's time to talk strategy

Here comes a rant with some nuance in it. Try to read the whole thing and think about it before we start the next round of knee-jerk name-calling in either direction.

I'm getting a little worn down by the brand of socially-conscious person who keeps defending (mostly white, as far as I can tell) hooligans breaking windows, setting fires, and generally fucking shit up in the name of drawing attention to a cause. If I say I don't like people tearing up Oakland and claiming they're doing it for The Movement, I'm some kind of white supremacist who thinks private property is more important than black lives.

Hold the phone. There is not one type of protester. There are protesters who've suffered a lifetime of racism, both subtle and blatant. There are protesters who haven't, but who care about the issue. There are also faux-anarchist assholes and Cal kids who are pissed off they missed the 60s and looking for a little excitement. While we're on the subject, there are people who become cops because they grew up with violence in the inner city and want to make things better, there are people who become cops because they're amoral gun-nuts who want a license to kill, and many there are many people in between. Do we really have to go over this? I guess we do. Okay.

I don't like people destroying property in Oakland not because I think property is more important than poor black men's lives (are you fucking kidding me?) but because it punishes the wrong people and distracts from the message of the protest. Every time we have to talk about this, we are NOT talking about police overreach or racism in America anymore. If I was a tinfoil hat type, I'd say the "protesters" trashing our cities are sent in from up above to discredit the movement. They are not doing black men any favors.

I very much understand that right after a heartbreaking fuck-you of a "not guilty" verdict, things might get out of control. I've lost my personal shit over much less important issues so I'm not judging anyone who loses it the heat of the moment of getting beaten down by a racist system YET AGAIN. I don't get the vibe that this is what's happening here.

Shutting down freeways, okay, that doesn't hurt anyone. I still think it's a distraction that disproportionately affects poor people of color. (Who mostly has the types of jobs where you work at night and therefore use the highways at night?) If you're mad about freeways you're not, at least at that moment, mad about cops murdering kids.

But back to the subject at hand. I'm getting tired of the "if you don't equate trashing Oakland with By Any Means Necessary Malcom X history-making greatness, then you would have been some Jim Crow dude during the civil rights movement" kind of rhetoric going around. Let's talk about the civil rights movement, because THAT movement altered its protests to be more palatable to the masses. The first black person to refuse to give up her seat on the bus was a pregnant teenager, and the **NAACP** for god's sake didn't want that to distract from the message, so they sent in a more middle-class, broadly-appealing Rosa Parks to do the exact same thing. Google "Claudette Colvin" if this is news to you.

So please. Let's stop turning this big, important topic into petty back-and-forth about who's more progressive than who. If you don't like someone complaining about broken windows, fires, or blocked freeways, redirect the conversation back to racism and police overreach. There's a LOT to talk about. If I get off subject because "protesters" are screwing up a city I like, you can always get me back on message by asking me what happens to the poor kids (mostly nonwhite) who end up in America's most disadvantaged public schools. DON'T ask me to care about some UC Berkeley kid who thinks (or pretends to think) busting up a Trader Joe's somehow draws attention to that.